Part of his is valuing relationships in a very committed and traditional way – and pursuing them quickly and enthusiastically, which is certainly what happened.
Happily (?) part of my personality is that I don’t like to be told what to do, and if I can make something work by sheer force of will, I’ll do it. Now, my crash course in online reading suggests that we make a fairly uncommon – and perhaps not ideal – match. I couldn’t resist having my new significant other (for the sake of anonymity, we’ll call him Marine Guy) take it too.
But I find it useful to refer back to reading about my type when I am in the middle of life changes, or when I am trying to figure out why something bothers me. I get that not everyone loves personality tests (in fact, one of my daughters can’t stand them). I am also, as it happens, a fan of the Myers Briggs personality inventory. Honestly, there are some things I had no idea I even needed in a relationship until I started getting them consistently without even asking for them. I’m not sure anyone should get married when they still think they know everything. I thought I did, but then I pretty much thought I knew everything back then. I’m not sure anyone knows exactly what they want at nineteen. Part of it, definitely, is that we married so young. Both of us have done a lot of thinking and analyzing of why we didn’t work as well together as we wanted to.
And this despite the fact that he’s back to dealing with young children again (our youngest child is fifteen) and I am dealing with a significant other who is often away.
I have, though, been paying a lot of attention to real life romance because that’s where I am at right now.īelieve it or not, I spend a decent amount of time bonding with my ex over how much better we work together as friends and how much happier we are with other people. So I’m still not reading much (though I did manage a re-read of my favorite romance novel of all time, Mary Balogh’s Slightly Dangerous).